Hey luna.. so basically I’m in a rlly hard situation and idk what to do.. Yesterday at school there was a fight aginast someone in my form and one of the most popular sassy girls. We r strictly not allowed smart phones at school, but I filmed the fight a little bit. Now EVERYONE is asking me the video, but the girl in my forms headscarf fell off and I feel like I’m invading her privacy but also everybody else’s who were in the video (there were lots of girls there.) But now everyone is super angry at me and I’m scared the big gang of mean girls will come fight me, but I can’t tell a teacher bc it was my fault for taking the video. Sorry for the long message 😭
Hey 🤗 It sounds like you're in a tough spot.
It's important to respect people's privacy and not take videos without their consent, especially if it could be embarrassing or hurtful.
In this situation, it's best to delete the video and apologise to the girl whose headscarf fell off if she is upset about it. Let her know that you didn't mean to invade her privacy and that you understand if she's upset but won't do it again.
As for the mean girls, try to stay calm and avoid any confrontations or being around them – you could let them know you told your parents/carers about the video, and they deleted it from your phone so you don't have it anymore anyway! You could check with your parents/carers they're okay with you using this as the reason, but generally this is a good way to manage situations like this.
If you continue to feel unsafe, please talk to trusted adult, like a teacher or a parent, who can help you navigate the situation. Even though this may mean some consequences for using your phone, it's much better on the scale of things to let them know what happened, so they can be there to protect you!
Really hope this helps and take care of yourself 😊
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