How can I tell if my friends don’t like me?

How can I tell if my friends don’t like me?

Relationships

Sorry you're feeling this way – it's such a hard thing to sit with, and you're definitely not alone 💛

A lot of people question their friendships sometimes, especially when things feel off or uncertain.

Some signs that someone might not be treating you like a true friend:

🚪 Avoidance: they go out of their way to avoid spending time with you

💬 Lack of effort: they don’t engage in conversation or show interest in what you’re saying

❗ Hostility or unkindness: if someone is being mean or rude to you, that’s not okay – please talk to a trusted adult if this is happening

If you're feeling unsure, here are a few things that might help you feel more confident in your friendships:

🗣 Communicate openly: let your friends know how you’re feeling – they might not even realise something’s wrong, and a quick chat could clear the air

👯‍♀️ Spend time together: shared experiences (even small ones) can help rebuild connection and remind you what you enjoy about each other

💛 Notice the positives: try to tune into the moments your friends are kind, supportive or thoughtful – those are signs that they do care

💭 Challenge negative thoughts: insecurities can be loud, but unless you have clear reasons to worry, it’s okay to trust that your friends like you for who you are

You deserve friendships that feel safe, fun, and supportive 🙌🏽

So if someone consistently makes you feel small or left out, it’s okay to step back and protect your peace – the right people will make you feel valued just by being around them

And if this worry is taking up a lot of headspace, it might really help to talk to a trusted adult like a parent or school counsellor.

You don’t have to figure this out alone ✨

How we answered this question:

luna's team of experts comprises GPs, Dermatologists, Safeguarding Leads and Junior Doctors as well as Medical Students with specialised interests in paediatric care, mental health and gynaecology. Questions are answered and reviewed by this team.

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