Hey luna! So i just think my life is so unfair. My brother just got a new car. I am happy for him it is a really nice car but expensive £11,000 but he is paying like £200-£250 a month. He can afford that but I overheard a conversation between him and my mum and she gave him £900 towards the car. I dont know if i am overreacting but i am annoyed i rarely get anything i want (i am young so its not like i ask for a car its like sweets) but its the fact that he can pay for it he has a job so why give him that when i barely get anything i want? He is clearly the favourite in my mums choice and my dad idk
Hey 🫶 It’s completely okay to feel a bit upset or confused in a situation like this.
It can feel really unfair when it looks like a sibling is getting more support, especially when you're asking for smaller things and feel like you're being overlooked.
It might help to know that your brother being older and earning money means he's at a different stage in life – and sometimes parents choose to support in different ways based on that.
But that doesn't mean you're any less important or less loved 🩷
It’s totally okay to talk to your parent(s) calmly and let them know how it made you feel.
You could say something like, “Sometimes I feel left out when [your brother] gets things I don’t. Can we talk about it?” That way, you’re not blaming them but sharing honestly.
You're allowed to want things too, and it’s okay to ask questions when something feels off.
Hope this helps a bit – and remember, luna’s always here if you need to chat ✨
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