how can i stop overthinking about relationships with friends?
Thank you for asking this. Overthinking friendships is something so many people go through, even if no one talks about it 💛
It’s that feeling where you replay something small over and over, wondering if you said or did the wrong thing.
Here are a few things that might help when your mind won’t stop spiralling:
🗣 Talk to your friend if something’s bothering you: you don’t need a big dramatic conversation – even a simple “Hey, are we okay?” can clear up a lot and stop the cycle in your head
🌟 Focus on what is going well: try to notice moments where they check in, smile at you, or include you – your brain might be trained to only spot signs something’s wrong, so we have to balance that out
🧠 Remind yourself that thoughts aren’t facts: just because you feel like something is off doesn’t always mean it is – friendships can go through shifts for lots of different reasons outside of our control
🌈 Do something that brings you back to you: journalling, music, art, even a walk – anything that shifts your focus back into the moment and away from the mental loop
🛑 Check your boundaries too: if your overthinking is coming from a real pattern (like being excluded or ignored), it’s okay to ask yourself if your needs are being met
🤝 Ask for support if it gets too much: you can always talk to a parent, carer, school counsellor or even another friend – chances are, they’ve had the same kind of thoughts and can offer real support
Friendships are meant to make you feel secure and happy, not like you’re constantly second-guessing yourself.
Hope this helps 💗
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