Are you a toxic friend?
Take this quiz to find out ✍️
Friendship should be all about trust, support, and good vibes 🫶 But sometimes, our actions can unintentionally hurt our friends. Take this quiz to see if you might be doing things that aren't the best in your friendships – you can note down your answers and score it up at the end ✍️
But remember: this is just a bit of fun, so don’t take this to heart – try to see it as a learning and growth opportunity if there are things you want to do better at 😊
1. Do you often give your friend a hard time about their choices?
a) 😣 Yeah, I often criticise what they do
b) 😅 Sometimes, I give them advice
c) 😊 No, I respect their choices
2. Do you make your friend feel guilty for not hanging out with you?
a) 😔 Yeah, I make them feel bad for not being around
b) 😕 Sometimes, but I don't mean to
c) 😄 No, I get they need their space
3. Are you genuinely happy when your friend does well?
a) 😡 Nah, I get jealous when they succeed
b) 😓 I try to be happy for them, but it's tough
c) 😁 Yeah, I love celebrating their wins
4. Do you spill your friend's secrets without asking them first?
a) 😬 Yeah, sometimes I tell others stuff they said
b) 😅 I mess up sometimes, but I feel bad
c) 😇 No, I respect their privacy
5. Do you mostly talk about yourself in your conversations?
a) 😒 Yeah, I like to talk about me a lot
b) 😐 Sometimes, but I'm trying to change
c) 😃 No, I'm a good listener
6. Do you criticise your friend's relationships or friendships?
a) 😤 Yeah, I don't hold back my disapproval
b) 😕 Sometimes, but I'm trying to be more supportive
c) 😊 No, I respect their choices
7. Do you try to control what your friend does?
a) 😈 Yeah, I like making them do what I want
b) 😥 Sometimes, but I know it's not right
c) 😇 No, I let them be their own boss
8. Do you make your friend feel small or not good enough?
a) 😠 Yeah, I criticise them and make them feel bad
b) 😔 Sometimes, but I feel bad about it
c) 😄 No, I'm there to lift them up
9. Have you ever let your friend down in a big way?
a) 😣 Yeah, I've broken their trust more than once
b) 😅 I've messed up, but I want to make things right
c) 😊 No, I value their trust and loyalty
10. Are you willing to apologise when you mess up?
a) 😡 Nah, I hardly ever say sorry
b) 😓 I say sorry, but it takes me a while
c) 😇 Yeah, I apologise and try to do better
Scoring:
Add up your points based on your answers…
- Give yourself 1 point for each "a" answer.
- Give yourself 2 points for each "b" answer.
- Give yourself 3 points for each "c" answer.
What your score means:
10-19 points: you might be doing some not-so-cool things in your friendships. It's good to think about how you can be a better friend – for more advice on navigating relationships, check out dealing with bullies, or if you feel like you need help with conflict, read our relationships articles for tips on becoming more supportive.
20-29 points: you know there's room for improvement in your friendships, and that's a good start. Keep working on being a better friend – there’s ideas in the luna app which might inspire you, for example a piece on love languages
30 points: you're already a solid, supportive friend. Keep being awesome and nurturing those positive friendships 😊
Remember, nobody's perfect, but recognising where you can improve your friendships is a big step toward being a better friend👌
How we answered this question:
luna's team of experts comprises GPs, Dermatologists, Safeguarding Leads and Junior Doctors as well as Medical Students with specialised interests in paediatric care, mental health and gynaecology. Questions are answered and reviewed by this team.
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