I feel really lonely and I only have 1 real friend but she hangs out with a different group of people than I do and she said I can hang around with her in the new upcoming school year when I told her I feel lonely but I don’t want to seem like I’m just following her and her friends around what should I do ? 🩷

I feel really lonely and I only have 1 real friend but she hangs out with a different group of people than I do and she said I can hang around with her in the new upcoming school year when I told her I feel lonely but I don’t want to seem like I’m just following her and her friends around what should I do ? 🩷

Relationships

Thanks for sharing this 🩷 Feeling lonely can be really tough, and you really aren't alone.

It’s lovely that she wants to include you, but it’s also okay to feel unsure about how you’ll fit in with her group.

Here are a few things that might make the situation feel a bit easier:

🗣 Talk to your friend: let her know how you’re feeling – she might have some ideas to help you feel more included, like group hangouts or things you can all do together to get to know each other better

💬 Get to know her friends: start small by asking questions about their day or giving a compliment – those little moments can help build a connection over time

🎨 Join a club or activity: finding something that interests you can help you meet other people – that way, you’re not relying on one group for everything, and you have more than one space where you feel like you belong

🌟 Be yourself: you don’t have to change who you are – the right people will want you around just as you are, even if you’re a bit quiet or unsure at first

⌛ Take your time: friendships don’t click overnight – it’s okay if it takes a little while to feel fully comfortable

What you’re feeling is so valid and wanting connection doesn’t make you clingy.

Know that you deserve friends who make space for you and help you feel seen 🫶

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