My friends have made a voting board today. We had to pick our favorite person in the friend group. We are a friend group of six. Only two of us voted. And one of them was my best friend in the whole friend group. She picked someone else. She has been ignoring me and not paying attention. She has been mad at me for the stupidest reason. What do I do?
Hey ♡ That's such a difficult situation, and it makes total sense that you're feeling hurt right now – luna's so sorry to hear what you're going through 🥀
Being asked to vote on who your “favourite” friend is can easily lead to people feeling left out or judged.
Here are a few things you could try:
💬 Talk to her honestly: if you feel able to, you could let her know how her actions are making you feel – saying something like “I felt a bit left out when you didn’t pick me, and I’ve been feeling really distant from you lately” might help her understand
🧠 Ask yourself what you need: it’s okay to wonder if this friendship is making you feel supported and what you need out of it
👯♀️ Spend time with people who make you feel good: whether that’s other friends, family or just yourself – being around people who treat you with care can remind you of your worth
⏳ Give it a bit of space: sometimes people need a little time to realise how they’ve treated someone – if she’s mad at you for something small, she may come around once things have calmed down
Whatever happens, you deserve to be in friendships that make you feel valued, not second-best 🌷 You’re not overreacting for feeling the way you do, and you’re not alone in this.
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